I remember several years ago, quite a few years ago, I was having problems with somebody. A lot of aversion was arising, so I was trying to make it all right. I wanted to get rid of the problem, so I tended to go at it from an almost aggressive angle of, ‘You’ve got to straighten this out; you’ve got to get it right.’ The more I tried to make it right according to my view, the worse it got. The person wouldn’t cooperate! All he could see was that I was aggressive, insensitive, and stu­pid. That was certainly no way to make it right. So even though I was right in one way — that there shouldn’t be a prob­lem, we shouldn’t be acting like this — I didn’t have the patience to bear with the situation until the response was right. So the response was wrong.

From: Dealing with Disease, by Ajahn Sumedho

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